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A virtuous woman, who can find? Her husband has full confidence in her. She laughs at the days to come. And much, much more. You, Joseph, have been exceedingly blessed by the LORD. Keep that in mind for the rest of your life. You will need to.

You've read the katuba. But what is “responsibility?” Wiki says this:

Moral responsibility can refer to two different but related things. First, a person has moral responsibility for a situation if that person has an obligation [or duty] to ensure that something happens. People who have moral responsibility for an action are usually called moral agents Agents are creatures that are capable of reflecting on their situation, forming intentions about how they will act, and then carrying out that action.

Moral responsibility is both related to and different from causal responsibility and legal responsibility. People are causally responsible for events when those events are directly brought about by their actions. Often when people have moral responsibility for a situation, they also have causal responsibility for that situation. Someone who is praised for acting in a morally responsible way has usually caused some good state of affairs to occur. A person is legally responsible for his or her actions when it is that person who will be penalised in the court system for an event that has occurred.

Wiki, again (and amazingly), is helpful in understanding authority:

Max Weber, in his sociological work, identified and distinguished three types of legitimate domination (or rule), that have sometimes been rendered in English translation as types of authority, because domination isn't seen as a political concept in the first place. Weber defined domination (authority) as the chance of commands being obeyed by a specifiable group of people. Legitimate authority is that which is recognized as legitimate and justified by both the ruler and the ruled.

Here, the charisma of the individual or the leader plays an important role. Charismatic authority is that authority which is derived from "the gift of grace" or when the leader claims that his authority is derived from a "higher power" (e.g. God or natural law or rights) or "inspiration", that is superior to both the validity of traditional and rational-legal authority and followers accept this and are willing to follow this higher or inspired authority, in the place of the authority that they have hitherto been following.

What distinguishes authority from coercion, force and power on the one hand and leadership, persuasion and influence on the other hand is legitimacy.

How, then, are you to handle those situations when they arise? Clearly, what I call “The Darth Vader School of Management Theory” is out. What you will need is the other hand of leadership, persuasion, and influence. The book of Proverbs has a lot to say about them. But remember the Fruit of The Spirit: love, joy or cheerfulness, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. “Let your gentleness be evident to all.” How much more should it be evident to your own family? As the head, you have the obligation to demonstrate to your family how this is done.

And how is this done? It's very simple, but it's not always easy: you must be dead to self at all times. No pity parties, No thinking, “But I want...” or “I have a right to...” No, it must be what the LORD wants at all times, and generally, that is you showing your family what it means to be a disciple of the Messiah. You could start by washing Simone's poor tired feet tonight.

May the LORD God bless you even more exceedingly abundantly!